Most of us know that new year resolutions normally last a few weeks at best. Why is this?
The answer lies in how our brains work. Psychologists have discovered that we have both a conscious and a subconscious mind. A new year resolution is like a goal. To succeed in either you need to set them in the right way. You must involve both your conscious and subconscious mind.
Your conscious mind decides what you want to achieve. This is what happens when you state your new year resolution. Your subconscious mind is what then guides you to success.
To tell your subconscious mind what to do you must follow these steps and speak to yourself using the right sort of language. This moves you from mere positive thinking to positive knowing
- Write it out – fewer than 3% do this – this gets your subconscious mind working on it
- Rewrite it every morning. Even fewer do this.
- Be specific, personal, positive and present tense as in “I weigh 12 stone” rather than “I will lose weight”.
- Set a deadline
- Picture and feel yourself achieving the goal or resolution – vividly imagine you are already there. Feel grateful or happy about it before you get there rather than waiting
- Repeat it to yourself regularly in front of a mirror with feeling – this is called an affirmation
- Tell yourself you deserve it. Repeatedly say to yourself “I like myself” and “I am excellent at…..”. Many people fail to achieve their goals because deep down they feel they don’t deserve it.
Follow these guidelines and you’ll be in the minority of people who actually stick to their new year resolutions and succeed.